10 Traits that make you a Good Boyfriend

Finicky Feline posted an entry on her website on the "10 Traits that make you a Great Girlfriend". It was a very interesting read. And I must say that if any of you guys out there managed to find a girl who scores at least 8 out of 10, you must have sowed good Kharma seeds in your last life.

In general, I believed the traits listed are really what many guys want. But what do girls want? To give you boys some clues on handling your gfs, i put down a list of "10 Traits that makes you a good Boyfriend". Notice I use the word "good" here, cos girls are ever changing creatures and their expectations vary according to the weather. So there are hardly any "Great" boyfriends around. Not to the female species, anyway.

Note: This list is not in accordance to importance. They are all equally important.

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1. You listen BEFORE responding

When girls rant, they want someone to listen to the whole story and their bitching before you respond. If you offer any opinion or comments before she finishes her story, you're either not interested or you just want to have sex, or worse, both.

2. You care for her family and her pet

Girls like the fact that you genuinely care for her family and it means that if she ultimately ends up walking down the aisle with you, there will be minimal family conflict.

And why is the pet important? Most girls see their pets as their sons/daughters/confidant/best friend and if her bf has a problem with someone they absolutely love, it could possibly mean you don't love her enough to make peace with the animal (which is something you should be able to do).

p.s. Pls make sure you really try to like her pet(s), and not stroke the little creature when she's around but kick the poor kitty off the bed when your gf goes to the bathroom.

3. You're filial

There is an old Chinese saying that goes ..."any guy that is filial to his parents can never have too bad a personality".

It still holds till today.

4. You make her laugh

Laughing always makes a person feel better, and if you can cheer her up even when her dog just died, it means you're really the one special person who can touch her heart. No matter what.

5. You go shopping with her and give your opinion

Many girls enjoy shopping (altho' i don't) and often, they would think of dressing up for the guy she adores. So go shopping with her and tell her which dress looks better and which colour makes her look slimmer. Never mind if you're colour blind. She just wants to know that you care enough.

If you hate shopping to the core, remember that your girl really wants to look good when she is out with you (and your friends). In that way, it makes you look good. And perhaps boost your ego a little if your friends or other people compliment your girlfriend.

Also, wipe the constipated look off your face when you do go shopping with her.

6. You remember dates

Birthdays, anniversaries, your first kiss, etc. If you can, buy her a little gift (price doesn't matter). At the very least, she cannot complain to her best friend that you didn't get her anything.

7. You give wise advice

Boyfriends very often serve as the pillar of strength to girls and being able to give sensible and rational advice is very important. Otherwise, she will go to other girls, or worse, other guys, who may undermine your role as a confidant.

8. You respect her

Do not cut her off immediately when she expresses an opinion. She wants to know that her thoughts matter to you and even if it really is stupid, don't laugh or jeer at her. If her self-esteem dips, she will blame you for it. Listen (refer to pt.1) and put across your own opinion in a diplomatic manner.

And, don't force her to have sex or blow you. It's disrespectful.

9. You're affectionate

I'm not talking about putting your arms around her body like seran wrap all the time. Give an occassional squeeze when you're holding hands, a peck on her forehead before bedtime, cuddle now and then, pat her gently on her head, etc. Things that only a boyfriend can do.

10. You tell her she is beautiful

As the world already knows, us girls think we are fat. No matter how much exercises we're doing or how little we're eating. But when the special guy thinks she is beautiful, she will feel better about herself and she will love you more.

Don't ever complain about her pimple scars, bulging tummy, chunky ass or unshapely legs. She will feel she is not good enough for you and yes, all her friends will think you are scum. You don't care what her friends think but be warned that if you still choose to pinpoint her flaws, her friends will drill the idea into her head to leave you for someone who truly appreciates her.

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The above list just serve as a guideline and of course, it varies from person to person. In the defence of those with dicks, I would suggest that you try to attain the above traits only if your girl scores at least 6 out of 10 in the "10 Traitsthat make you a great girlfriend". Otherwise, she's not worth it.

So boys, how do you score?